Saying "Yes" to New Opportunities (And Why You Should Never Fear Growth)

I recently said yes to an opportunity that is going to lead me to one of my biggest dreams. I don’t think I’ve fully processed the thought that it is going to happen, but I am still very excited for this experience. I am not going to share it with you just yet, but I will be posting all about it on my social media accounts and of course my website in the near future!

Anyone who knows me knows that I can be very quiet and introverted a lot of the time, especially around people I don’t know. I don’t have many friends, and I often keep to myself. I prefer to be at home with my family over anything else. I like having an everyday routine, and I love planning. I enjoy staying safe in my comfort zone, to put it simply. The only problem with this is that opportunities will pass you by when you constantly choose the safe option. I saw a quote recently that said, “The safe option could fail too” and it stuck with me. I don’t want to be the person who says no to opportunities that are going to help me grow; I’ve done it enough already. When I think of the woman I am trying to become, I imagine her saying yes more often to things that are good for her, and I imagine that she is extremely confident in herself and her choices. This is the woman I want to be. And maybe deep down I am her. Maybe she’s finally shining through.

Lately I feel like many great things have been coming my way. I have so much to look forward to. I think that this has been happening because I have been putting so much positivity and love out into the world for so long and it’s making its way back to me. I have been focusing on constantly bettering myself, loving myself, and being kind to myself. If you know the purpose and goal of my blog, you’d know that it is all about finding confidence in myself, and for you, my readers, to find confidence in yourselves. This self-love journey that we are on together is rocky and imperfect, but I know in my heart that we could all benefit from showing more love and kindness to ourselves. Saying yes more often is one way that I am bettering myself and pushing myself to grow.

I have thought long and hard about making this decision that I cannot wait to share with you all. It is something that I have been dreaming about for so long now. Just because I have been dreaming about this, it doesn’t mean that the decision was easy for me to make (eventually, I will discuss why). I turned to my family and friends to get their opinions and advice. I am so extremely grateful to have good people in my life whom I trust and value the opinions of. They helped me weigh the pros and cons, and they supported me. This decision may have seemed like a no brainer to some, but to me it was important and it required me to think. I believe that you should never make big decisions on a whim, but you also shouldn’t over think it too much. I am still trying not to stress or worry so much. It’s good to be aware of the consequences of our choices, just don’t let them consume you.

I am proud of myself for choosing to take a risk. For choosing to do something that absolutely terrifies me, because even though I am terrified, I am excited as well. One of my biggest dreams is about to come true. This is a big step for me to take, and I am a bit nervous for what’s to come, but I know this opportunity is bound to bring me good things. It is going to help me grow.

Don’t be afraid of growth. Don’t be afraid of failure. I am learning this now, and I am so excited to see where this journey takes me. I will be sharing this decision with all of you in the new year, so stay tuned! If you are stuck trying to make a difficult decision, this is your sign. If it is going to help you grow, take the risk. Thank you so much for reading! I know this isn’t a holiday related post, but I wanted to share it with you before the year is over! Be on the lookout for more holiday posts coming very soon!

The Consequences of Not Loving Yourself

If you are familiar with my website, you would know that it is all about finding confidence and self-love. This is because I have struggled with it for so long. I have found confidence in myself through my family and friends, my passions, and simply by experiencing life. Over the years, I have become so much more confident, and I am working hard every day to become the woman I want to be. This is not an easy goal to reach though. Something that I’ve realized is that NO ONE is confident 100% of the time. There are things that I am very good at/things I enjoy doing such as weight training and writing. Even something as simple as being able to put a stylish outfit together can make me feel confident, however I am not good at everything, and I still struggle with many things.

Due to my lack of confidence over the years, I have directly seen what not loving yourself can do to you, and it isn’t pretty. Luckily, I have always been good at being myself and doing what I believe is right for me. I rarely followed/follow the crowd, and I am proud of that. But just because I have always done my own thing, does not mean that I was/am always confident. When you don’t love yourself, you sometimes settle for things you don’t deserve. Sometimes you let people use you and hurt you, and you don’t understand why they keep doing it. What I learned is that it kept happening to me because I let it. Because I didn’t love myself enough to say “I don’t deserve this. I deserve better”.

Recognizing your worth is so important, yet many people don’t talk about it. When you don’t recognize your self worth, you are going to find that you are unhappy a lot of the time. Something that I’ve realized is that happiness comes from within you, and you should never place your happiness in anyone else’s hands. It is completely OK to have people in your life who bring you happiness and joy. You should have these people in your life. You just have to be very careful and selective of who you share your happiness with. What I believe is that you, yourself should be able to make yourself happy. It can be hard to trust other people because not everyone wants you to be happy. Not everyone wants you to succeed. Do not let anyone take away your happiness or your confidence. Sometimes, I will randomly feel extremely happy for no particular reason, and I believe that this is the best kind of happy to be. No one did anything specific to make me happy, so no one can take it away. It came from me, and I love experiencing those moments.

There are so many simple ways to practice self-love. I do things daily that make me feel good. They could be as simple as relaxing for a little bit, or something more exciting to me such as weightlifting or pampering myself. I also try to compliment myself daily, particularly on the days when I am not feeling so great. Getting enough sleep, getting some work done, and ranting about your day to a friend are all ways to practice self-love. I tend to talk down about myself sometimes, and I used to not think twice about it, and now I recognize when I do this. I am trying to stop the negative self-talk, and either replace it with love and kindness, or not say anything at all. When you want to say, “I can’t do that, it’s too hard” replace it with, “I know this may not be easy, but I am going to try my best”. Instead of saying, “I suck at ___” say, “I need to practice ___”. I have trouble doing this, but I am going to try to start. When you tell yourself that you aren’t smart, beautiful, or strong, you WILL start to believe it (check out my post titled “The Power of Your Mind” for more on this).

When you don’t love yourself, you may find that you are constantly going through the same old cycle. Dealing with the same people who don’t lift you up. Feeling like you aren’t worthy, or beautiful, or smart. If you choose confidence and self-love, you are going to go so much further in life than if you were to continuously put yourself down. It isn’t easy, and I believe that it is a journey that we will be on for the rest of our lives. Even when we get to a point in our lives where we feel incredibly confident, there will still be moments where we may not feel that way. We are forever growing and changing. When I look back, I can’t believe some of the things that I put up with, but I have since changed, and for that I am so grateful. Don’t fear self-love, because on the other side may be everything you deserve and more.

Thank you so much for reading. I hope that my message sticks with you today, and I hope that you continue to better yourself and walk in the direction of confidence and self-love. Know that you aren’t alone on the journey, and I am right there with you. Your passions and your confidence will lead you to your dreams.  I feel like mine are beginning to come true already.